The perfect man…. For me

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So lately, I have had a few people try to set me up with other people or had a few people take interest in me. This has made me think about what it is I am looking for in a partner and what characteristic I find ideal. So I made a list. Because you never know, someone might come across this list that fits all the things I am looking for in a partner. So here it is. What I am looking for in my ideal partner.

Physical features

  • Dark or red hair
  • Eyes that can tell a story
  • A smile that can light up a room
  • Taller than 5’6
  • Slim or average build
  • Strong but not too many muscles
  • Hands that fit with mine

Personality

  • Must like kids
  • Is kind, likes animals and is nice to waiters or those who serve us
  • Can smile even through the hard times
  • Funny, a little sarcastic and can make fun of themselves but not in a way that is putting themselves down
  • Gentle
  • Knows how to be serious but is also a big kid at heart
  • Is not afraid to cry
  • Doesn’t resist change or at least understands that it happens whether we like it or not

Other Attributes

  • Well read. Must love reading and not just the same books but a wide range
  • Intelligent. Not super smart but have a broad knowledge or understanding of things or at the very least have heard of them
  • Must want children of their own
  • Must have a job that they enjoy doing. It doesn’t matter if it doesn’t pay well as long as they enjoy what they are doing
  • Prefers pubs over clubs or just drinks at a friend’s place
  • Both an indoor and outdoor person. Is just as happy having a day time adventure or sitting at home watching movies
  • Doesn’t take longer in the bathroom than me
  • Family man. Family must be important to them

These things are negotiable. They would be nice but I can live without them.

  • British
  • Good shag
  • Good cook
  • Similar music tastes
  • Dresses nicely

So there you have it. My list. If you know anyone who fits it, please send him my way. I feel some days that I am going to be a crazy old cat person and would like to think and hope that someday I will find the right person for me!

The Knitted Boyfriend

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So I was paroosing the internet tonight looking at Cat Memes, Ryan Gosling Memes, Really intellectual stuff whilst eating white chocolate and watching Breaking Dawn part 2. Whilst looking I came across this little gem. The Knitted Boyfriend. Basically this student somewhere made this as part of a project for design school. I totally thought that this was an awesome idea. I would love a knitted boyfriend. Weighted right he would provide a comfort to snuggle up to while watching movies or in bed. Being knitted he would keep me warm in bed. He wouldn’t talk back or argue with me and he wouldn’t eat all the food in my house. And the best bit. If I got sick of how he looked I could just knit myself a new one or even better have two of them (One that looked like Nathan Fillion and the other that looked like Zac Efron so I could wake up between these two hunk-a-spunk’s)! For more info on The Knitted Boyfriend you can click here or check out the Facebook page here.

Do you think you would like a Knitted Boyfriend? What would be your favourite thing to do with him?

Online Dating

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OK I will admit. I am an online dater. I have been for a while. When I say a while I mean for about 14 years I have been in and out of the world of online dating. Yep since I was 18 I have been looking online for love. I’m not ashamed of it. So how has my luck been? I have met some great guys and made some friends. It has been a bit of a mixed bag. I can safely say that I have never met anyone who I don’t feel comfortable with and I always go with my gut feeling. I follow all of the rules when it it comes to online dating. I don’t give out too much information straight away, I never tell them where I live and when we do the first meet it is always in a public place. Like I said I have been very lucky in that I haven’t met any looneys or such. There have been a few guys where I have gotten a bit funny about but the perks of online dating are that I have been able to cut of all contact with them. My first kiss was a guy that I had met online! How scary is that! Back when I was 16 I was the first of pretty much everyone with an internet connection. This guy was 15 and from Perth. I have no idea how we even got talking but it turned out that he was heading to my home town for a motor-cross thing and we decided to catch up. He was a lovely guy. His parents picked me up and we went to the movies. We saw the second Austin powers movie and that is where my first kiss happened! we kept in contact for a while but the distance was a bit too much. We found each other on Facebook a while ago and had a chat. It was good to catch up with him. Some of the people I have met and dated online have turned out to become quite good friends. I have a guy I met online and dated back when I was 19 who is still a good friend of mine and even became friends with some of my family who I still talk to today. Most recently I have been talking to guys online as a way to meet new people. Also to see if maybe I can find love. Being a single mum who has full time care of her child means that I don’t actually get out a lot. I probably go out a few times a year and they are for events so I don’t get the chance to meet guys the normal way. In the last few years I have met a few guys. Nothing of course that has tipped my fancy but there have been some. You never know one day I might find the love of my life online. I can say both my mum and dad found love online as well as a few other of my family members. So one day it might happen!

Have you ever online dated? Had any good or bad experiences? I would love to hear about them.

Love or Lust

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Love vs Lust. It is a big question in this day and age where I believe that people put more faith in lust then they do in love. In today’s society people go very easily from person to person. Within a few days of being with someone all you hear is ‘oh I love him so much’. What people don’t realise is that this is not love. people believe that they are in love when they aren’t. I can say now that I am not perfect. In my younger days I told people I loved them when I probably really didn’t. For me it was a pressure thing. only about 3 times have I said ‘I love you’ first. Most of the time the guy has said it to me and just out of pressure I have said it a couple of days later. Most relationships don’t last these days because after the honeymoon period people struggle to see past the imperfections that make a person who they are and rather then accept them they just move onto the next person. It’s a cycle. I think it also comes from that fact that in this day and age people don’t like to be alone. Be it they miss the cuddles, they don’t like the silence at night or they just don’t feel complete without someone there. They get into relationships fast and believe that it is love when they are really in lust or even just will be with anyone for the company. This I believe is toxic. Love is about giving your whole raw self out there. It’s funny because I lived in Queensland with my Aunt for a time before I had my son. We then had a falling out but have since gotten over that falling out and are speaking again. When I saw her at my sisters wedding last year it was a bit emotional but she said to me she remembered one thing I said to her once and it really stuck with her. That advice is that you need to be happy with yourself and love yourself before you can let others into your life. If you do not love yourself then how are you supposed to let other people to love you.

So what is Love and Lust to me? Lust is the initial chemical reaction when you meet someone and there is an attraction between the 2 of you. Lust is that honeymoon stage where the person you are with can do no wrong and is perfect in your eyes. What happens next is Love. Love is when you start seeing a person’s imperfections and instead of them annoying you and getting on your nerves you accept them as the persons little quirks. Love is sacrifice, cares more about the other person then themselves, it doesn’t try to chance the person, it compromises not gives ultimatums. Real love is something that happens once or for some twice in a lifetime. Love is real.

What is Love and Lust to you? Are you or have you ever really been in Love?

Thoughtful Thursday

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This is one of the most well known quotes from the bible. When my sister got married last year I was honoured to read this at the ceremony. ‘Love is patient.’ this is so true. If you love someone then you will happily wait for them. Yes sometimes you need to just move on but real love waits until the time is right. ‘It does not envy, it does not boast.‘ People who are always going on about how much they love this person and that and has to tell everyone. That I think is boasting. Real love does not feel the need to do that. people who only talk about their relationships really annoy me. Even more then then people who ignore you because they have a man in their life. ‘It is not self-seeking.’ True. Real love finds you not the other way around. Don’t look for love. Love will find you one day. Some times you just have to wait a while to find that love. I have looked for love. I have looked in the wrong places. I have thought I had found it when in all honesty it wasn’t really love. I have come to realise love will find me when the time is right. Not when I want it but when the universe or whatever deems me ready for love as it is one of the strongest emotions around. ‘Love never fails’ True love is forever. No matter what. If love is there on both sides then t can never fail no matter what happens.

What is love to you? What does it mean?

PS. Happy Valentines Day

Love week

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Well with valentines day happening this week I thought I would make this week love week. This valentines day marks the 30th one for me in which I have not had a valentine. Pretty good effort I think. I don’t buy into the hype. But then that might be my sometimes cynical self talking (I also have my moments when I think love is just a chemical reaction.) My plans for valentines day this year is to have lunch with a couple of single friends, buy myself a bunch of flowers, chocolate, bottle of wine and curling up on the couch and watching the movie Valentines Day. How do you plan on spending valentines day? Are you single or have a partner? Do you buy into the hype?

We Own The Night

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About a year and a half ago I found this amazing band called Lady Antebellum. No they aren’t new. They have been around for a while but they are a country music band so they were never really on my radar. A friend of mine introduced them to me. I love them. Their music tells a story. In particular their album Own the night. Listening to it as I am writing this. I love the blues and roots genre of music. Music you can just sit back and songs that have meaning. Own the night is one of those albums that I can relate to every single song on there. It is like they wrote it about my life! Most of the songs relate to one person who well will always have a piece of my heart. So today I will be introducing you to this awesome band that I love and letting you know my story behind why I like each song.

We Own The Night This song is the first that reminds me of a person who was very special and still after 5 and a half years still has my heart. We dated for about 3 months but when we broke up it wasn’t because we didn’t care for each other. There were just circumstances that just weren’t ideal. I still talk to him. He is one of my best friends. He knows everything about me.

Just A Kiss 2 and a half years ago I dated a guy. He was the first guy I had dated since having my son. It was very full on and ended badly when he left me to take back his ex. I was shattered by what had happened. I was lucky I had one of his friends to help me get through it. He would call me up and make sure I was ok and just to chat. 6 months later I found myself falling for him. He had a girlfriend but their relationship was on the rocks. He had feelings for me too and eventually his relationship ended. This song was very much a song that explained both our feelings to each other. We didn’t plan to rush things. We had a couple of dates. I thought he would be the one. But again I was wrong. We took it slow. It was great but again it didn’t end up being what I thought. deep down he had feelings for someone else so we parted ways.

When You Were Mine This is a song that reminds me of the guy who I dated 2 and a half years ago. We fell pretty hard for each other. He told me he wouldn’t leave me. He told me that I was the one. He promised he would never hurt me. He broke all those promises. We have had chances to get back together but I can’t trust him. To him I will always be the one who got away. I do still have feelings for him. I care about him. But he ripped my heart apart and I can’t go back there. I struggle now when I see him down the street or see photo’s of him as I am still good friends with some of his family.

Cold As Stone This song isn’t as much about a person in particular. It s more something that has happened as a result of past relationships. People who don’t know me very well think that I am like a rock. They think that I don’t love and am just out to have fun. Those who know me though understand that that is not me. I don’t often let my guard down. It takes a lot of probing to do that. I do wish that I was as cold as stone sometimes. because then I wouldn’t care about the fact that I have been hurt. I feel some-days that I am close to having that. then a memory pops into my head and I become a soppy mess!

Wanted You More This pretty much sums up every single significant relationship I have had. In the end I was the one who wanted them more then they wanted me. I am ok with that. It would have been nice to have been wanted more then I wanted them. But that’s just life.

There are so many more songs on this album that mean something to me. But I will turn into a blubbering mess if I keep going! Are there any songs or albums that just have so much meaning for you? Would love to hear the music that gives you your memories.